Book review:

July 24, 2010

Getting to the Other Side of Grief by Susan Zonnebelt-Smeenge

A few quotes:

“The major problem widowed persons have is that they do not typically choose pain; they try to avoid it. Most of us have been taught that grief is something to endure, something to put up with. If we just hang in there, life will get better. But we want to encourage a different approach: Don’t avoid the pain-attack it. Don’t endure the grief-manage it. Choosing to grieve is a necessary component to a full and healthy resolution of grief. Getting to the other side of grief doesn’t happen without the pain and heartache.”

“Perhaps you’ve seen the poster with a cat out on a limb. The caption reads, “Some say you’re strong to hold on. But sometimes you’re stronger if you let go.” When your spouse dies, the tendency is to hang on. At the beginning, hanging on is probably the only thing you can do, but you know you can’t stay on that limb forever. You can’t grieve for the rest of your life.”

I think I’m reading this book too early on still. It’s a good recommendation someone gave to me, but I think it would help me in a few more months. I’m not really ready to head into the “other side of grief yet.”


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