“Sorry to hear…”

July 27, 2010

The kids and I are back up in Michigan for a week visiting my parents. It’s our first trip back here since my wife died. Every Monday morning, my dad meets a group of guys for coffee at a local restaurant. Some of these men have known me since birth, and through that, they know about Caroline and the kids. I went with him yesterday morning, and I think I heard the sentence starter, “Sorry to hear…” at least 6 or 7 times. Everytime I shook a hand, I was greeted with that opener. And everyone of those times, the opener ended with, “….about your wife.” I honestly wish no one would have even brought it up, because bringing it up was worse than not acknowledging it at all at that point. So I smiled, said thank you, and moved on to the next person with the “Sorry to hear…” opener.

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One Response to ““Sorry to hear…””

  1. lamarbar1 said

    It’s hard. People mean well. That is why I have isolated myself. Now when someone says,”How are you doing?,” I say “Tell me about how you are.” This shifts the conversation and allows you to listen to them.

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